Work won’t love you back

2022-08-03 Update: reflected that the transition to a legal entity was postponed by a year; gave link to media advisory of that transition; rewrote two phrases.


Abstract of what is on my mind: work is transactional by nature, excellent connections with coworkers are precious (I am fortunate to have many). Now, the companies that consider their work force “family” puzzle me. This is not exactly the case where I work (or is it?), BUT we are in a setting that is pretty conducive to it, AND after 27 years, this is going to change –in less than a year two years. SO I really wonder what that change will do to the current equilibrium (I’m pretty sure it’s going to put it to the test).


Screenshot of a Tweet by Kevin pointing out that work won’t love you back

This stemmed from my browsing The Twitters yesterday. I read Kevin‘s tweet.

He wrote “work won’t love you back.” And as much as I’ve loved the people I’ve worked with, it’s always turned to be correct.

Screenshot of the The tweets that Kevin quoted, referring to work as family but also as being a transaction

Kevin was quoting another Twitter thread where I read “it’s so emotionally damaging when companies self-style their workers as ‘family’. you can have deep emotional connections with your coworkers, if you’re lucky, but don’t forget that work relationships are fundamentally transactional. i hope your family is not.


I don’t consider my workplace to be like family and we aren’t self-styled as such either. But, work is very central in my life: every other week I spend most of my waking time at work (the other week, I am solo parent of a teenager, spending just normal amounts of time at work).

Firstly, I am fortunate to have very deep emotional connections with many of my coworkers, a few of which I even regard as father parent figures, many of which are true models for me, most of which I respect tremendously.

Secondly, we have very little turnover. I’ve worked there for over 22 years and many current colleagues were already in the team when I joined. And we welcome newcomers, not as siblings, but with similar care and attention to their success. As though we have a stake in it –and we do, yes.

Thirdly, we get together (we used to, pre-COVID at least) every now and then and those occasions are always enjoyable and looked forward to by most. Yes, like any other workplaces, there are difficult people who get along with fewer people, or are not interested in making any connections at all. That’s my description of our unusual work environment. In fact, I remember how I described it to my mum a few years into it: it’s like summer camp where you make new great friends and do exciting stuff, but it’s all year-round.

Now, our administrative setup allows us to do our work without a whole lot of competition, without too many frustrations, because we are employed by four different institutions that legally “host” our consortium, and in most of our cases, the people who employ us are not those we take work orders from. I think that makes a world of a difference.


Change is coming. The Hosts arrangement, in place from the start in 1994, has enough drawbacks that for a few years now we have been exploring how to become our own legal entity. This is set to happen on January 1, 2022 2023. When it does, the consortium will have its own bank account, legal and fiduciary obligations, and traditional management powers that we currently do not fully have.

The dynamics are bound to change. While today I (and many others in the team) are moved by the sheer impact our work has on society (HTML –heard of it? CSS, Web accessibility, Internationalization, etc. We are the little known consortium that makes the Web work, for everyone) and the Hosts that employ us provide the best abstraction to shield us from the reality of the transactional nature of work, this is going has the potential to hit us in the face like the train crashing Dr. Woodward’s truck in the movie Super 8!

There is a lot on our plates and most of us overwork because it’s really worth it! I remind myself on occasion that work won’t love me back, but once we are truly as valuable as our ability to make the company money, I wonder how the care will fare.

Mes lightning talks à Paris Web

Paris Web 2014

C’est là qu’est l’os (Paris Web 2014, lightning talk) [slides]

Lightning talks from Paris Web on Vimeo.

Paris Web 2016

Je l’ai annoncé, puis je l’ai présenté : Le rôle du staff W3C pour continuer de réinventer le Web de demain (Paris Web 2016, lightning talk) [slides]

Lightning talks from Paris Web on Vimeo.

Photo of me on stage at a transparent pulpit with microphone. I am a woman with short auburn curly hair. I wear a white shirt and blue jeans. I am looking at the audience. Behind me on the large screen is the bottom right of a slide where I hand wrote in white my name, affiliation and handle.
Coralie Mercier, Paris Web 2016, Photo by Emmanuelle Legrand

#IWD Women who inspire me

International Women’s Day on March 8 is by far, among any other day, a great day to reflect on the struggle for women’s rights and achievements, and to celebrate women.

Here are a dozen women I am acquainted with who inspire me daily. Thank you, ladies, for what you do, what you stand for. Here is why I am in awe, in a word or more. A longer essay would probably be fairer but the essence is what I’m aiming for.

Amy van der Hiel

She’s right (yes, always), kind, caring, sensible, smart, astute, efficient, positive and determined.
When I met Amy more than 15 years ago, I met a soul mate (or soul matey, heh, capt’n?)

Ann Bassetti

A strong and modern woman. Caring, determined and wise. Gracious at all times, even when calling out scoundrels.
Being in touch with Ann, working alongside, has made me a better person.

Wendy Seltzer

An achiever who stands firmly for her values and puts her proverbial money where her mouth is. She’s also determined and eloquent.

Virginie Galindo

A strong woman, who in a brave, friendly and inclusive way moves causes forward, be that securing the Web, the cause of women in tech, and even love!

Véronique Lapierre

Véro is pragmatic, wise, sensible, smart, reliable, discreet, brave, and an epicurean.
Véro has such an intriguing background. I wish I met her moar.

Sophie Drouvroy-Simonnet

Intrepid, strong, brave, determined, humane, super-humane, crafty, web-savvy, a great worker, a great mum, a great friend.
When I think of Sophie, I think of wind in our hair as we rode the Space Mountain roller coaster. WOW!

Delphine Malassingne

Artistic and thorough, obsessive, relentless, caring. Delphine embarks on projects she believes in and makes succeed.
I wish I were closer to Delphine so that I could join some of her crafts bandwagon.

Léonie Watson

Sweet and strong, determined, efficient, always positive, eloquent. Léonie is a beacon.

Eve La Fée

Fount of knowledge, cunning, strong, eclectic, expert, crafty, natural.

Sylvie Duchateau

When I think of Sylvie, I think sunshine. She’s energetic, positive, focused, determined, kind, adventurous and brave.

Theresa O’Connor

Tess is braveness impersonated, positivism, energy, strength, determination. She’s wonderful and beautiful.

Eve Coste-Manière

Pure creativity. Philosophy. Energy. Booster. Eve tinkers on a humongous amount of projects and makes the best happen.

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For #IWD2017, A Day without a Woman

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IWD

International Women’s Day (March 8) is observed world-wide as a day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women (or, as commemoration of the struggle for women’s rights.)

2017 marks the 109th observance of the day.

2017 marks my 1st observance of the day.

How will people observe the day?

I have heard that some have decided to participate by taking personal time to not come into work (volunteering instead for any cause related to social, economic, cultural and political change for women); other people may wear red and/or support women in other ways; and others have suggested that men handed over public speaking to women (cf. Kozlika’s 8 mars, la parole aux femmes.)

How will I observe the day?

I found via my friend and colleague Amy that on Wednesday 8 March, a follow up is planned to the January’s Women’s March: A Day without a Woman.

“A Day without a Woman” gave me pause. It resonated with me.

Considering that I have a lot on my plate at work, I thought of a day mostly without me [at work] that I will implement in the following fashion: I’ll do my work in stealth mode, so I’ll set myself away in IRC, will write or reply to e-mail only if necessary, will not attend WebEx meetings.

I hope to feel inspired in the meantime to produce or create non-work to #BeBoldForChange.

You can help perhaps? If you have a hunch what I might be good at, please, drop a suggestion in the comments.

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